Discover What You Really Want - Ask This Question
Kids Know What They Want When I was a child, it was easy. I'd sit down with a cup of hot cocoa, some cookies, and a sheet of paper to write my letter to Santa. I'd tell him everything I wanted for Christmas. I had no trouble identifying what I wanted. I didn't worry about whether I thought I could have it, how much it cost, or what other people would think. I knew what I wanted and I asked for it! Sometime between those childhood years and becoming an adult, I became much less clear.
What I wanted got lost in "shoulds," obligations, other people's opinions, and my own judgments. This seems to happen to most of us. We lose touch with what we truly want. And how can we create what we want when we don't know what that is? If you long for more pleasure, passion, and purpose in your work and life, the clearer you are about what you want, the better. But what if you don't know? What if you are unclear, stuck or confused about what you want? The Santa Claus Question "If I were Santa Claus and could bring you anything you wanted, what would that be?" This is one of my favorite questions to help myself and my clients connect with what we truly want.
Here's an example: I was working with Janet (I've changed her name to protect her privacy) and she wanted to create a new information product for her clients. She had been thinking and thinking, yet she wasn't lit up about the ideas she had. She was stuck. I requested she take a few moments to play in the field of all possibilities; to set aside all she had been thinking and all that she "knew" about what was and wasn't possible. She agreed. I then asked "If I were Santa Claus and could bring you anything you wanted, what information product would you love to offer your customers?" Within a moment she knew! She was instantly energized by her idea. It was just the right offering for her clients. Plus she already had it mostly written so it would be very easy for her to create. What was amazing was that, hard as she'd tried, she had not thought of this idea until just that moment. When she took a pause, shifted her attention to a different question, and opened to a broader range of possibilities, she got a new answer.
With that answer she found clarity about what she wanted and the energy to create it. The rest was easy. She had the new product ready for her customers within a few days.
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